THE RE-BUILDING OF BLACK LOVE....S.O.S!!!

S.O.S....S.O.S!!! I'M FORWARDING A MUCH NEEDED S.O.S!! READ BELOW!

I stumbled upon this great article that I must share because its much needed... My Response & Reflection...

A Call to Action: Help Single Black Men Keep A Woman!!!
http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2012/12/a-call-to-action-help-single-black-men-keep-a-woman/

December 10, 2012 by Demetria L. Lucas Click Link to Read Story.

 
This is by far the BEST topic to end and begin the year, This "Call to Action" is so needed with the coming of the New Year.
 
I'm no relationship expert or guru, but I have mastered the art of telling it like it is when it comes to men and what I expect from them while dating, which is probably why they run fast the moment I respond to Bullsh*t as their language. I myself being a successful black woman and still aspiring, have put dating on a major halt due to the incompetence and lack of what we call "good black men" out there. I have decided instead to just sit back, watch and learn my prey, instead of complaining there aren't enough good men out there, I have chosen to analyze the sought out sex and see why I haven't found one compatible for my liking. I cannot speak for every woman when I say my standards have changed as my age changes, what I wanted in a relationship at 25 is definitely not what is needed now. As my education advances and my careers gains speed, my wants and needs in a spouse are standard, not unrealistic and I definitely won't settle, I've worked too hard to be with someone that doesn't inspire or compliment me and the future I'm striving for. With that I have studied and learned so much from the opposite sex, and I must say that this S.O.S. should not be just for black men, but women as well. We have put so much emphasis on the lack of black men that we forget it takes TWO to build a great family... So, which sex is really lacking?

We cannot look at all black men and think how terrible they are, while in or after a failed relationship with one, and still have any hope of loving another. We must get to know any man before we judge him based on his past or present. As I have said before "you cannot really know where your going if you have no recollection of where you come from" and this goes without saying when entering a new relationship. We as people so many times jump into intimate relationships without really getting to know each other, without asking the right questions, so that we know from the beginning and yes, not everyone is honest, truthfully this is especial within African-American unions. And my lovely black women, I have to ask the age old question, How could you start a family with a man you hardly know? And then complain when the relationship fails???!!!! You have no idea who this person is but know enough to have a child with, this notion confuses me time and time again, my head hurts thinking of such gesture. The cycle of unmarried black homes continue and is getting worse, black boys who turn to men are finding no value in marriage because it is not portrayed within their homes or neighborhoods majority of the time. The lack of black fathers and strong, educated black men are going unseen and unheard, and we all as a race are to blame.

As black people weather you are raising your family alone or with support, strength comes not from seeing you put food on the table and being able to provide your family with the best you can, but realization of who they are, where they come from and your push for their greatness is detrimental in a black home especially today. So many lost and misguided children come from homes of no hope or no education, so lost that most young black men and women have no true respect for their past or present and sadly enough that leads to no passion for a clear future.Young black boys, become men and then old men, as young black men many without the guidance of a loving, supportive or educated man around often find hardships in growing to be confident and strong men, unless their single parent or guardian have some positive structure. Radio has become a open mic for foolish, uneducated and ignorant unimportant rant and raves of money, clothes and even more demoralizing of black women from our very own black men, its sad to say you'll never hear a white artist downplaying a white woman to the point of out right hate. Its obvious to say young black men are continuing the cycle of degrading black women and we not only have slim to no positive projections of black men with the exception of our president, but we have very little black men looking to make it better within their communities. I as a woman live to talk to young black girls about how great they are and can be no matter what hand life dealt them in the beginning of their story, great stories always have amazing twists and turns in them. We as black people have no one to blame but ourselves for the projection we give to our youth today, we have so much education and exposure, but still were trying to find a way to point the finger at our own faults and failures. As the New Year comes into existence, I say to all my black people stop making excuses and correct the situation! We are becoming victims of ourselves, what are you doing to change it?

I have watched and analyzed my black brothers and sisters weather they be single, dating, married, In families (RARE) and will continue to, I love watching mixed race relationships as of recent. Now, I'm not a stalker of any kind I just enjoy watching people interact especially black men and women, watching a couple who is clearly in some sort of intimate relationship, you can see why they are so great together or failing. But, to see a black couple or family in total love is something the word beautiful cannot be used to explain, there is a reason people stop to watch the black family interact, Father, Mother and Siblings, communicating, laughing, together, how lovely the view.... Now imagine this is NORMAL to see. 


With Much Love, Peace and Sincerity in the New Year!
Jules :)

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